“Mommy I Want A Playmate” Dealing With The Guilt of Secondary Infertility

When I was a little girl, one of the questions I got most was “What do you want to be when you grow up?” My answer was A MOMMY! I wanted a big family with 3-4 kids and my mom always used to tell me, “Have one first and then tell me how many you want.” Well, I had one and my answer to her question still remains the same, but at this point I am older and know my ship is sailing quickly, so I pray that I am able to give my son at least one sibling. In an earlier post, “Secondary Infertility and the Stigma Behind Infertility and Miscarriage,” I talked about some of the emotions that secondary infertility bring. One being guilt. One of the reasons I feel guilt is for not being able to give my son a sibling. We are lucky Addison is extremely independent and has never made a big deal about being an only child or really asked for a brother or sister. That is until yesterday! I guess there’s a first time for everything. Continue reading ““Mommy I Want A Playmate” Dealing With The Guilt of Secondary Infertility”

Secondary Infertility and the Stigma Behind Infertility and Miscarriage

Resolve is the National Association of Infertility and defines Secondary Infertility as the “Inability to become pregnant, or to carry a pregnancy to term, following the birth of one or more biological children. The birth of the first child does not involve any assisted reproductive technologies or fertility medications.”

Yep, that’s me. It’s something I never thought I would be a part of. I don’t know how many times I’ve answered questions like; Is he your only chid and Don’t you want another one? Yes and Yes are my answers. My son is now 7.5 years old and we have been trying for 3 years now. 5 miscarriages, 2 cancelled IVF cycles, 1 failed iui, 5 D&C’s and 1 hysteroscopy later, I am still part of that 30%! Actually, I’m 1% of women because I’ve had 5 losses.

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