What NOT To Say To Someone Who Is Dealing With Infertility And Miscarriage

In my 3 years I have been TTC number 2, I have been lucky to have an incredible amount of support from my family and friends, but I have also heard my share of comments that were a second a way from a knee jerk reaction punch to the face! LOL! If you have been TTC, I’m sure you can relate. In the grand scheme of things, I don’t think most people are intentionally trying to hurt you. I do think many people feel uncomfortable with the subject and don’t know what to say so they say things they think will comfort you and most of the time they do the exact opposite. I have learned that the best thing that someone could say to someone dealing with Infertility and Miscarriage is “I’m sorry” or just listen and be a shoulder to cry on.  A simple hug goes a lot farther then “it wasn’t meant to be.” Here are some of the worst things you can say to someone who is struggling with Infertility or had a Miscarriage(s). Continue reading “What NOT To Say To Someone Who Is Dealing With Infertility And Miscarriage”

My Stork Needs A GPS – How To Stay Positive During Your Infertility Journey

So in my 3 years I have been TTC, I have seen over 40 of my FaceBook friends get pregnant or have a baby or both. In that time, I have had 2 cancelled IVF’s, 1 failed IUI, 5 losses along with many other things that I already mentioned in past posts, but yet I have no baby. I am anxiously awaiting for it to be my turn. I think my stork needs a GPS! He seems to find everyone else’s house with no problem. Do I need to bake him a cake or invite him in for drinks? Seriously, where the hell did he go? Where ever he is, my uterus and I are waiting for him! So please bring me my baby soon! It has been very hard staying positive during this journey, especially when I keep failing and seeing so many people have a baby (many who aren’t even trying or want to have a baby). Infertility can really chip away at your happiness in life. Although, this frustrates me to no end, I find it will not do me any good to mope or pity myself. So I have been doing several things to help me stay positive until my storks gets his act together. Continue reading “My Stork Needs A GPS – How To Stay Positive During Your Infertility Journey”

Secondary Infertility and the Stigma Behind Infertility and Miscarriage

Resolve is the National Association of Infertility and defines Secondary Infertility as the “Inability to become pregnant, or to carry a pregnancy to term, following the birth of one or more biological children. The birth of the first child does not involve any assisted reproductive technologies or fertility medications.”

Yep, that’s me. It’s something I never thought I would be a part of. I don’t know how many times I’ve answered questions like; Is he your only chid and Don’t you want another one? Yes and Yes are my answers. My son is now 7.5 years old and we have been trying for 3 years now. 5 miscarriages, 2 cancelled IVF cycles, 1 failed iui, 5 D&C’s and 1 hysteroscopy later, I am still part of that 30%! Actually, I’m 1% of women because I’ve had 5 losses.

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In Due Time

This year during the holidays (2015), my hubby Jesse, son Addison (Adi) and I took a trip to visit all the in-laws in San Fran. We stayed there a little over 2 weeks. What a trip was. Of course, we had all the normal holiday stuff all families celebrate, but there were was one particular event that brought me to tears. Well two. My nieces Bat Mitvah and the birth of my new nephew.  These were happy tears for the most part. On Dec 30 2015, I was extremely fortunate to meet my sister in-law’s new baby boy. It was literally the day before we were suppose to leave and the day before my birthday. We had to change our flight to meet him, but after $650 and a lot of finagling with the airlines, we changed our flight successfully and got to meet our new baby nephew. Continue reading “In Due Time”